YM convo

I was browsing through my old YM archive from years back. I was having a crazy situation back then and my good guy friend kinda enlightened me with his opinion about people flirting with others while in a relationship. In fairness, this was around 5 years back yet it all made sense somehow.

This is what he said,

actually, i tried to rationalize why boys do this
(flirt with other women, even though were head over heels with our gf's)
and here is a little explanation
once a guy gets with a girl, his interaction with the opposite sex becomes less and less.
and if he was the type who was very friendly and sociable when he was single...
he'll have a hard time adjusting to his situation being in a relationship
and so he tries and tries real hard..
but sometimes, he just finds himself needing that feeling of simply interacting with the oppsite sex (who isnt his girlfriend)
for reasons like:
1) he still wants to see if he still has IT (will women respond positively to his cuteness and his charm still?!)
2) just to feel that thrill that there is still a possbility of someone, other than his girlfriend, getting attractded to him
3) pampakilig lang talaga since maybe in his relationship with his gf, the kilig has died down (which really happens, ergo LOVE IS INDEED A CHOICE)
so.....
although flirting maybe really "ass-holic" of that guy
i don't think that just because he does it, it means that he loves his girlfriend less...
UNLESS
he takes it beyond flirting and starts making sweet love to that girl! 
sometimes, you just have to scratch that itch...and see for yourself if its just the feeling you want, or you're really out of love na..


This goes for both guys and girls. So if you're questioning a relationship similar to this situation, I hopefully wish that this post would at least bring light to you.

promise, it doesn't make you less loved,